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January 7, 2001 will forever live fresh in my mind. As you see, that is the day I was hit by a drunk driver.

Everybody knows of the dangers of drinking and driving, but it seems that no one really ever listens or STOPS driving while intoxicated. That is why I have decided to tell the world about what has happened to me and my family in hopes that it may change some minds about the subject.

Ok, just sit back and let me take you on an unforgettable journey. One you will never forget as you see, I never can.

It was a chilly January morning when my fiancé and I decided to take a drive to Woodstock New York for the day, just to get away for the afternoon and spend some quiet time together. As we drove the hour and half from Northern New Jersey were we were living at the time we talked about our future and the house we were in the middle of buying. We chatted about what color to paint the living room and what type of flooring to put in the family room. Everything was perfect. We walked around Woodstock and imagined what it must have been like in 1969 during the concert. As the day drew shorter we decided to head back home.

On the ride back home we received a phone call from our real estate agent telling us she had received the signed paper work form the sellers of the house we were buying. That had just made our already wonderful day perfect. Little did we know that in just 20 minutes our lives would be shattered.

As we had just crossed over the state line back into New Jersey that is when it happened! the tires squealing to a halt and the sound of impact! Bam! We hit head on into the car that had just pulled out right in front of us. To this day I still smell the rubber from the tires and hear the sound of the broken glass and twisted metal. I remember every second of the crash, it is forever imprinted in slow motion into my brain, I can still feel my face and knees hit the dash board. As I am still in the middle of a law suit I am not able to go into great detail about my injuries, but the minute it is over you better believe I will.

Now to flash forward. I have been going through hell every day just to walk and now my biggest struggle ever. My DR's now believe I have MS (Multiple Sclerosis). As you can imagine this has been one nightmare after another, and I owe it all the Drunk driver who so carelessly got behind the wheel of her car. Oh and in case your wondering what ever happened to the Drunk driver, well she walked away and into the night free. As she has never been found since. You see, she gave police a fake address and now is walking around out there most likely without a care in the world. As for me, I will never walk without great pain or a walker again!!!!!!!

Here is an update for you. (2003)

Well it has been 2 1/2 years now since the accident and this in my life have changed considerably. First of all, my fiancé and I are no longer together. We broke up about a year after the accident. The trauma of it all was just to much for him to handle and my oldest child went to go live with his father because seeing me suffer was to much for him. Even though it was hard for me I am a firm believer that things happen for a reason. Well, I found my reason. I am now with a man who has brought the sunshine back into my life were as before only darkness had dwelled. I am walking without the aide of my walker and I feel much better. I have found the strength within myself to fight and get well. I even went on a trip to the Bahamas this summer and went snorkeling, and that was something I never thought I would ever do. I have also found many new and wonderful friends that have helped me in so many ways. Without them I don't know how I would have made it through this. I have been blessed with so much happiness and love since the accident from so many people that it would take a life time for me to show everyone how much they mean to me and for all of you that have been there through good times and tears. I THANK YOU!!! People often ask me how I can have a smile on my face after what has happened to me and my family, well the answer is simple. If you or someone you know has been a victim of drunk driving, go look up your local support groups at hospitals, community out reach programs or the World Wide Web (internet). There you find the strength, courage and love to help you find that smile again. I DID!!!!!! I hope you find that peace and love you look for. Until next time. KEEP SMILING!

ONE MORE THING. IN CASE YOU ARE WONDERING ABOUT THE MULTIPLE SCLEROSIS, I WAS DIAGNOSED LAST YEAR. THIS HAS BEEN A LONG HARD ROAD FOR ME, BUT AS MS. GAINER SAYS "I WILL SURVIVE"!

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